So you've always played things by the book. Let the boy do the asking when it comes to dating 101. Wait a couple dates before you take things past
second base. If you like someone, never call right away - give it time to simmer.
You're played things by the book - and how far has it gotten you?
I'm not saying you need to toss your morals out the window and give it up on the first date. But sometimes, throwing the rules out the window and
throwing caution to the wind is the best way to light a fire under your love life.
Whether you're just dipping your feet into the dating pool or trying to spice up a stale relationship, dig deep inside your brain and think of all
those little rule you run your love-life by. Maybe you only date a certain type or dump anyone who tucks his shirt into his jeans. You only go out
with someone who shows an interest in you first or you've trained yourself to make do with what life brings you and seldom speak your mind.
There are no rules in love, sex and relationships
Snap out of it. There are no rules in love, sex and relationships - so clear your mind, get off your high horse and get ready to experience a new side of dating.
Go On a Date You'd Never Usually Go On - The last time somebody suggested an afternoon at the amusement park instead of a picnic in the park,
you took a cab home. What are you scared up? Dating - at least the dates worth going on - are about compromise. So if you've already done the wine and cheese under
a parasol thing, let yourself go and try something out of left field. Why, you might be asking, do something you don't want to do? 1. You might surprise yourself.
2. Someone needs to take that stick out of your ass and 3. If you want someone to see the real you, there's no better time for that than when your guard is down.
Make the First Move - The year, my friends, is 2006, meaning guys don't need to ask girl's fathers permission before popping the question, the first
person to their wallet is totally OK to pay and who asks who out is anyone's guess. Is there that type of someone you've always avoided asking out
because you're afraid they might say no. Let me ask you this? Is their saying no really so much worse than their saying yes? They say no - so what!
You're right back where you started. They say yes and anything is possible. Whether you're online, in a bar, at a quincenera, who cares? Don't just
stand there!
Try Something Kinky Or Out of Left Field - I don't mean step outside your comfort zone, but every sex life can stand a bit of tinkering now and then.
The only way you can properly gage what turns you on is by trying new things. Always been intrigued by dirty talk . maybe phone chat . hell, video chat.
What can it hurt? Maybe you've wanted to spice things up with dirty movies, more foreplay, toys . hey, go with it. If you hate it, you can always say no more.
But if you like it, well then . imagine the possibilities.
Date Someone Who Isn't Necessarily Your Type: There are the people I find attractive and the people I wind up dating, and neither one of
them have typically been right for me. It's always that someone you kind of pass over in a lineup . the one who just doesn't fit that picture you've painted
of that special someone time and again in your head. That one. You see it? That's the person you want to go out with. Let me share a secret with you: You don't
always know what's best for yourself. You may think you do, but you might not have a clue. Try dating someone different from the norm for once, and see . just
see if they might not be more right for you than you think.
Go With the Flow: So often, in dating, people try and follow a schedule. We schedule the first kiss, the first time someone spends the night,
the first time someone says 'I love you.' But it's been my experience that the best relationships naturally evolve. Instead of trying to make
it to that first or second goal, why not just focus on the now - on having fun. Before you know it, that relationship you were so intent on
making happen will happen on its own, and how much happier will you be looking back knowing it was fate, not the sneaky little wheels you
attempted to turn, that made it all possible.
Don't Limit Your Potential for Meeting New People: Bars, clubs, birthday parties and after work functions aren't the only places to meet people
anymore. How about chat rooms, singles cruises, dating sites, phone lines, speed dating seminars. I know your gut instinct is telling you that
some of these things are beneath you, but ask yourself this? When is the last time I had a genuinely good experience dating someone? If the
answer is longer than a few months and you've been looking, tell me . in the grand scheme of things, what could you possibly have to lose? If you
try and don't like it, at least it's one less excuse you have to carry around with you.
Don't be Afraid to Admit What You Really Want: And that, my friends, means in all aspects of dating. It means not being afraid to admit what
you want in a partner. Not being afraid to admit what you want in the bedroom. Not being afraid to admit what you want out of a date, a chat
session, a first meeting . I'm not saying be rude about it. But the more you know about what you're looking for going in, the better chance you
have of getting what you want in the end. Don't play games or side step what's really going on in your head and your heart. Be honest, and chances
are you'll get what you want in return.
and finally .
Take All the Advice You've Ever Heard and Shove It: Except this advice. I'm not trying to be all high and mighty, pretending my advice is the best
around, but it is . in this case. Why? Because any advice that tells you to play a role, to be something you're not, to conform to what you think another
person wants to see in you is wrong. Any advice that lets you sit back, relax, try new things and discover what you really want is good.