Signs You've Found The One
We've all talked about the fantasy-great job, killer eyes, fast car, nice bod. all traits we associate
with "the one." But in reality, "the one" should have a bit more going for him than some good
genes and a solid bank account.
Too often, we have our priorities out of whack. I mean, it's important that you be physically attracted to
your loved ones and that they have the potential to provide a secure future for you. But it's about so much
more than that-which is where a bit of leg work come in handy.
Sometimes, the signs you've found the right person for you are right under your nose. the more obvious ones we
tend to take for granted. Those little a ha moments you tend to become aware of when someone asks you to list
all the things you like about a loved one. Rather than wait for that crossroads, we thought we'd lay out a few
of those more essential traits for you right now.
Listens to Your Problems
Relationships shouldn't be a drama fest, but couples should be able to talk about most everything with each other.
The person who genuinely wants to hear about your day, offer suggestions for overcoming roadblocks you can't tackle
alone, or acts simply as a sounding board when you need to get things off your chest is a special find. Too often,
couples go through the motions and never really share their relationship on a deeper level. Couples who manage to
scratch beneath the surface stand a much better chance at survival.
They're Friends with the Ex
I don't mean "go to dinner together, share a bubble bath, talk about everything" friends with the ex. I
mean "still in touch with, has a good time with" the ex. The thing about exes is this: If you really think
about it, any relationship should start as friendship. That said, assuming there was no huge blow up where someone
cheated on someone or got arrested for domestic violence, why wouldn't you still be friends with your ex? Someone who
leaves in their wake a string of bad relationships and pissed off former lovers is obviously the cause of some of that
damage. That said, it says a lot about a person's character if they're manage to transition from relationship to friendship.
Shows Genuine Interest in Your Hobbies
They say opposites attract, and that makes sense. Unless you're an ego maniac, why would you want to spend the rest of
your life with your mirror image? But just because you and your loved one are different doesn't mean you should have
absolutely no interest in what the other one does. Certain commonalities should exist in a healthy relationship, and it's
in showing an interest in what makes the other one tick that you find your common ground. Anyone who seems to genuinely
want to know who you are and what you're about is obviously in it for the long haul.
Who Said Anything About Jealousy?
Every morning on my way to work, I listen as these paranoid people call into radio shows desperate to catch their significant
other in the act of cheating. The majority of the time, they're just acting out of jealousy and some irrational fear they're
being lied to. There's a fine line between acting protective and caring and acting overbearing and confrontational, and someone
who can comfortably sit back and let you live your life without the twenty question grill routine is a keeper.
Shares Your Same Thoughts for the Future
So often, people sacrifice what they want out of life for someone else-and I can tell you from experience that it doesn't
end well. Sure, you'll have differences and make compromises, but ultimately, the two of you should see similar paths for
your lives in the future. If one of you is dead set on living life in rural America while the other one answers the call
of the big city (or perhaps one of you wants a whole brood while the other one isn't sold on kids) your differences are
drastic, and it's better to figure out now if you can meet in the middle than find out the hard way once you're in deep.
That said, if you instantly click on the things you want out of life, you'll drastically cut down on the potential for
the not so good kind of surprise.
Makes You Laugh When You're At Your Lowest
I don't know about you, but when I've had a bad day, few things can get me out of that funk. Except a really well timed
laugh from a really special person. We've all felt it-that person who has the power to break through our rough exterior
and make an impact. That's a very rare gift, and it usually comes from someone who's managed to make themselves an
essential part of your life. When you find that person, hold on to them. that quality doesn't come along too often.
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