How to Spot a Cheater
You've seen them on Jerry Springer and Jenny Jones, ambushing lovers to come clean about past infidelities, pregnant
girlfriends, one night stands and year's long trysts. It's sickening to the point of being comical - how do these
people get sucked in by such trash?
Truth be told, half of the people you see hashing through their personal heartache on national TV are faking it - most
of them are there for the money. But their stories happen every day, and while you may think you're capable of spotting
a cheater from a mile away, you'd be surprise to learn just how snowed lust can make you.
Nearly everyone starts a relationship with the wool pulled over their eyes. Who wants to think the worst of that someone
who may well be "the one"? And while I'm not advocating you go through life with a pessimist's attitude, there
are a few warning signs everyone person who's on the market should keep their eyes peeled for. If you don't want to fall
for a cheater, pay close attention for these telling signs.
If They Lie About One Thing, What Else Are They Lying About?
Somewhere in our coming of age, all of us were introduced to something called the little white lie. A fib you tell to spare
someone's feelings or make an awkward situation easier. True, there are some fibs it's OK to tell, but it's like we've set
ourselves up to rank lies on a scale of 1-10. If we turn a blind eye to some lies, where does it end? We've all gone out
with someone who's lied about their age, the car they drive, job, where they were the night before. Notice how those keep
getting worse. If they lie about one thing, what else are they getting away with?
Can I Call You Right Back, Honey?
If you're dating someone who can never take your calls and always seems to get people off the phone quickly when you're
around, chances are they're hiding the person who's on the other end of that cell phone. Anyone that secretive about who
they're talking to can't possibly be up to anything good.
Following Through is an Art
People who are over worked and under organized tend to have trouble keeping track of a daily routine. Similarly, people sticking
their poker in too many fires have a hard time keeping track of who they're doing when. If plans change almost as often as
underwear and it seems that when you two lovebirds are together it seems like only one and a half of you are really making a
connection, it's a pretty sure sign you aren't the center of attention . and an even surer sign you need to bring this one in
for questioning.
Eyes Can Wander. Just Not Too Far
A little flirting is harmless. A wise person once said, "The day I stop looking is the day I die." But the key word
here is looking. If you're on a first date and you see your dining mate's eyes darting all over the restaurant, it's a fair
indication this one might not stop at looking. If those eyes follow a hottie toward the restroom and then the legs start to
follow the eyes that followed the hottie to the restroom, do yourself a favor: Scribble the words 'Something's come up' on the
nearest napkin and skip out on your half of the bill.
Sex, sex, sex . 24/7
Early in a relationship, nothing's better than a good lay . Why lie - a few good lays . a night! And if all you're looking for
is sex, then chances are you don't care much if you're getting it from someone who plays the field. But if you're looking for
more, there will inevitably come a time when you want to actually chat. If that chat is interrupted by a slip of the tongue
down your throat; If when you suggest doing it somewhere other than your place, he freaks out; If when you bring up the idea
of dinner, a movie, or a cup of coffee he turns bright red . You've got a problem. Fix it by moving on!
My Baby's Got a Secret
I know what you're thinking - everyone has a secret. But if you're dating someone who leaves the room every time the phone
rings or makes it a point to change the subject every time you ask a direct question, they're hiding something. If you can't
trust someone, how can you possibly be in a relationship with them?
Concrete Plans are Just a Suggestion
Endless nights waiting by the phone for a call that never comes. You're three glasses of wine in when the maitre die says
there's a call for you at the front desk. Your weekend in Napa is suddenly two hours at the wine bar down the street. If
promises for quality time together frequently come up short and work doesn't seem to be demanding long hours, do the math
and cut your losses.
Always kick start any relationship with an open mind . but keep your eyes open too. Just because you're ready for love
doesn't mean you have to jump at the first person who catches your eye. It's your right to be picky, so pay attention.
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