Five Reasons it's Time to Try Dating Online
There was a time - not so long ago, actually - when finding a date online was considered pathetic. But in an age of dating
services, speed dating seminars, blind dates . is finding someone on the Web really so terrible?
So you're a non-believer. Your friends all try and convince you to set up a profile, but you come up with excuse after excuse,
day after day. Well snap out of it. Since most Web sites will give you a trial period to start (and a rock bottom price to
upgrade), what do you really have to lose?
Your dignity?
Your Web virginity?
Please, if those things were so important, everyone of you reading this article would be attached at the hip . if finding
that special someone were so damn easy, don't you think you'd have made that connection by now?
Obviously, you'll want to start with aesthetics. Most sites have basic searches to get you started - age range, distance from
your zip code, maybe ethnicity. But then you get into specifics. Hair color, eye color, approximate weight, body type, do they
have a mole on their right cheek or not. For some of you, nothing but a brunette guy with green eyes who stands exactly four
inches taller than you with the build of a construction worker will do. So why not going in search of that perfect guy? For others,
your wants are more vague . as long as she's dark skinner and tall, you're happy. So consider this your designer looks buffet.
Pick and choose what you want, then leave the rest to chance.
Once you've gotten the purely superficial out of the way, it's time for your ad ons. Say you've always wanted to date an editor
(just a little plug for all us literary folk out there). Why not look for someone in the media? Maybe you've dated money and it
just caused trouble, so you're looking for a guy who's broke. You want o be the breadwinner. Sometimes, financial status is a
search choice too. Hey, if you're looking to be specific, be specific . after all, what can it hurt? You don't know these people.
You're online.
Hate kids? Who needs em! Make it clear you want your special someone to be child free on at least grown and out of the house.
Maybe you've dated dumb and it just wont fly this time. Bachelors or higher, the call is yours. Can't date a girl who won't
knock back a cocktail now and then? Neither would I, so specify.
When you get into politics and religion, you've entered a whole new ball game. Some people are adamant - if we don't have the
same beliefs, we don't stand a chance. Others could care less. Think Maria Shriver and her thriving marriage with Ahnold.
Those two couldn't be more different. They're night and day. But they found love because in the end, she gave, he gave.
You don't necessarily need to be one of those people, but you should probably give it some thought before designing that date.
Do you want your man to swing left? Is orthodox out of the question? You can even make it a point to make specifications here!
But the toughest part to designing your online dream if planning his or her personality. Your choice of words here is very
important. You know, to just say smart and do a keyword search isn't terribly specific. You might be looking for a bookworm
and get some physicist who's trying to master nuclear power. Romantic is all well and good, but do you want someone to send
you flowers on your anniversary or surprise you at all hours of the day with singing telegrams, picnics and company at the
Xerox machine.
Try going with hobbies (football, Opera, hiking). They can usually lead you closer to where you're looking to go. Sometimes,
if you're curious, a book title, you're favorite sports team, the name of a song or a play might show you have something very
specific in common. And if all else fails, you can always go through the profiles with a fine tooth comb in search of what it
is you're after.
Before you put your search away for the evening, check to see if you can save it for next time. or at least save the people you
found on this search so they're still there when you come back. If you're going to go to all this trouble of finding the right
on, the results might as well last a bit longer than one evening.
And should Mr Fantasy turn out to be a rest of your life thing, brilliant. More power to you and so glad things could work out
so flawlessly. But if at the end o your search, you turn up one dud after the next, reread the first paragraph and move on to
plan of attack number two.
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