When going on a date, you have two primary goals:

1. Get to know your date. Find out if they are interesting to you.
2. Make yourself look good. Tell them what makes you interesting.

If you're going on a first date you should prepare yourself to accomplish these goals. Before going on the date, consider what you want to say, as well as the questions you want to ask your date. Frequently, the conversation flows effortlessly. However, being ready with a few questions and a few interesting anecdotes about yourself doesn't hurt. Here's a list of five basic questions you might want to ask and a list of five things you could be prepared to share about yourself:

Five Questions for Them:

1. What do they do for a living?
2. Where are they from?
3. What do they like to do in their free time?
4. Where did they go to school? What did they study?
5. Do they have any family in town? How many brothers or sisters?

Five Questions for Yourself:

1. What you do for a living.
2. Your family.
3. The things you do in your free time.
4. Your goals in life.
5. Your schooling.

These questions are good starting points. They take the nervousness out of the beginning of the date and allow room to branch out into other conversations. Hopefully, the conversation will flow naturally on its own. If it doesn't, you can always bring it back to the original question. Think about your answers ahead of time to give yourself a chance to come up with good anecdotes to go along with your answers. Many of us suffer from an inability to answer questions on the spot. You might reply to a question with a short answer that doesn't allow for further discussion. This tends to make the dinner conversation rather dry. Have you ever left a date and thought, "oh no, I should have told them about this!" You only get one chance to make that first impression.

Now that you've got the basic questions, here are a few fun ones:

1. What are 3 qualities you like/dislike in a person?
2. What was the most memorable job you've had?
3. What was the most embarrassing moment of your life?
4. What is the craziest thing you've ever done?
5. Who do you admire and why?
6. If you could pick just one, which would you rather be: attractive, intelligent, rich?
7. What do you like best about being single?

These questions tell you a lot about a person. Obviously, you don't want to limit yourself to the first five questions. The first five will give you an outline. These last seven will give you depth. If you pay attention to their answers, you will learn about their character, morals, sense of humor, beliefs, and if they are ready to be in a relationship. Be prepared to have a discussion. It's always a good idea to be aware of current events, books, movies, television, and music. If you have time, you can even ask them about their last vacation. All of these topics will give you a good picture of who they are and what they like. Dating is different for everyone. For some people, it comes easily because they are naturally charismatic. For others, it looks easy because they have a lot of practice. For the rest of us, dating can be hard work. If you've done your homework, by the end of the night, you should both know if another date is inevitable or whether you're going to end up friends. Either way, you'll feel good that you came prepared and were able to accomplish your goals for the first date.

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