Let yourself go

So, you've always played by the book. Let the man do the asking. Wait a couple dates before you take things past second base. If you like someone, never call right away - give it time to simmer.

How far has it gotten you?

Sometimes, throwing the rules out the window, and caution to the wind is the best way to light a fire under your love life.

Whether you're just starting to date, dating after being off the market for a while, or trying to spice up a stale relationship, dig deep and be aware of all the little rules you run your love life by. Maybe you only date a certain type, or dump anyone who tucks his shirt into his jeans. You only go out with someone who shows an interest in you first or you accept what life brings you and date anyone who asks.

There are no steadfast rules in love, sex and relationships. You make your own rules. Get ready to experience a new side of dating.

GO ON A DATE YOU'D NEVER USUALLY GO ON.

The last time a date suggested an afternoon at an amusement park instead of a picnic in the park, you took a cab home. What are you scared of? Dating - at least the dates worth going on - are about trying new things. If you've already done the wine and cheese under a parasol date, let yourself go and be open to all possibilities. Either you plan an unusual date, or be adventurous and accept an invitation to a date that's outside your comfort zone.

MAKE THE FIRST MOVE.

Is there that certain someone you always avoid asking out because you're afraid they might say "no." If they say no - so what! You're right back where you started. If they say yes, you'll be thrilled. Don't let fear of rejection rule your dating life.

TRY SOMETHING KINKY OR OUT OF LEFT FIELD.

Every sex life can stand a bit of tinkering. The only way you can properly gage what turns you on is by trying new things. Intrigued by dirty talk? Uniforms turn you on? Fascinated by the gadgets and toys at your neighborhood adult store? There are lots of ways to spice up your vanilla sex life. Let your imagination run wild.

DATE SOMEONE WHO ISN'T YOUR TYPE.

We all have our type. The physical attributes we're instantly attracted to. Most often, your type isn't the right person for you. You're so busy looking for your type that you pass up someone who could be a great match. If you meet someone who has a great sense of humor, but they don't match your type requirements, you're passing up a great opportunity to meet someone who might be the perfect match for you.

GO WITH THE FLOW.

So often, in dating, people try to follow a schedule. We schedule the first kiss, the first time someone spends the night, the first time someone says 'I love you.' The best moments in a relationship evolve spontaneously, not on a schedule. Instead of trying to make it to a goal marker, why not just go with the flow and focus on having fun. Before you know it, the relationship you were so intent on making happen, will happen on its own.

DON'T LIMIT YOUR POTENTIAL FOR MEETING NEW PEOPLE.

Bars, clubs, parties, and after work functions aren't the only places to meet a potential date. Ever tried chat rooms, singles cruises, dating sites, phone lines, or speed-dating events? You might think some of these alternative places to meet people are beneath you or risky. If you aren't having success through traditional channels it could be time to open up your dating options.

DON'T BE AFRAID TO ADMIT WHAT YOU REALLY WANT.

And that means in all aspects of dating. It means not being afraid to admit what you want in a partner. Not being afraid to admit what you want in the bedroom. Not being afraid to admit what you want out of a date, a chat session, or a first meeting. The clearer you are about what you want the better your chances of getting it. Be honest with yourself and go out and find what you want and deserve.

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