Taking a step back

Taking a Step Back

As anyone who's not in a relationship but wants to be will tell you, there's nothing worse than being alone. But with that mentality comes the idea that jumping into the first relationship that presents itself will solve all your issues of loneliness - and that is so not the case.

Nobody wants to hear the phrases "take things slow" or "get to know each other better" from someone who's blissfully happy in love, but much as you might not want to admit it, they have a point. Good things do come to those who wait, and just because you're single doesn't mean you have to be in a relationship.

Whether you're looking for that perfect someone in chat rooms and personal ads, attending singles mixers or merely asking your friends to introduce you to every available single in their office, if you're on the market, take a deep breath and ask yourself this - what are you really looking for? Is it love? Is it someone to have dinner with and call when you're lonely? Someone to snuggle up to on long, rainy nights? Sex?

You don't necessarily need to be joined at the hip to experience any of these, and since the number one mistake most people make when dating is moving too fast, we thought we'd head you off at the pass with some sage advice.

Ten reasons why it's better to take things slow early in a relationship.

Do You Know What the Divorce Rate Is?

With more than half of marriages ending in divorce, can you imagine how many innocently dating couples end in turmoil? Why not save yourself the trouble of a truly nasty break up and actually spend sometime trying to figure out whether this relationship is right or oh so terribly wrong?

There's Something to be Said For Dating

Do you know how many couples I know who've never been to an amusement park together? Never done a five star meal? Never gone away for the weekend? These are things that couples do, but why not give 'em a go while you're dating. What better way to get to know someone than to spend quality time with them?

Practice Makes Perfect

The more you date, the better you get at it. So if you bypass the courting stage and go straight to trading rings, you're not only cheating yourself out of experience, there's a good chance to putting the nail in the relationship coffin before it's even had a chance to get off the ground.

There's No Such Thing as a Money Back Guarantee - Bad as it is when someone you like loses interest in you, it's even worse when you realize you aren't that into someone you've made a commitment to. Why not take it slow until you've had a chance to form a real opinion?

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