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Five Signs That Your Date Is Into You

You're on a date and having a good time. But you're not sure how your date is feeling. Here are five signs that your date is into you:

EYE CONTACT.

When someone is into you, they make eye contact. They look at you when you speak and when they're talking to you. However, there is a difference between making eye contact and staring someone down. You can tell the difference by how their gaze makes you feel. If you feel uncomfortable, they're probably staring you down. This usually means they are trying too hard or are somehow trying to intimidate you and establish dominance over the situation. Not a good sign. What you want to see is a softer gaze. If you're lucky, you'll notice their eyes are dilated – a natural response to being attracted to someone, and a sure sign that they are into you.

TOUCHING.

When someone is into you, they find little ways to touch you. As with eye contact, you want to be aware of how the touching makes you feel. There is such a thing as inappropriate touching. As a general rule, your date will touch your hands, arm, shoulders, and may even put their arm around your waist. These are all good signs. Appropriate touching will often times be accompanied with eye contact or laughter (i.e. you tell a joke, your date laughs and at the same time reaches out to grab you arm or leg). Be careful with this if you are initiating the touching. Generally speaking, you can tell a lot about how a person feels about being touched by the look on their face. If your date looks uncomfortable (i.e. not smiling, looks away, etc), it's time to give some space.

POSTURE AND BODY LANGUAGE.

Two words describe a person's body language or posture if they're into you - open or closed. When a person's body language or posture is open, they are facing you with relaxed hands and arms, and moving naturally. A person with open posture will generally lean inward and move closer to you. When a person is closed, they will generally angle themselves away from you, spending more time looking around the room than at you. They may cross their arms frequently - a sign that they want you to keep your distance. This is their way of telling you that they're not interested.

LAUGHTER.

If your date is having a good time and enjoying your company, they will laugh at appropriate times (i.e. jokes, funny stories, etc). If your date gives off short, uneasy laughs, it's usually a sign things aren't going well. This means they are uncomfortable.

THE VOLUME OF YOUR VOICE.

When two people are into each other, their voices get lower. Your voice tone and volume softens. Be aware of the way your date is speaking. If their overall tone, volume, and manner of speech are the same as what you might find from someone at work, the date probably isn't going well. The best sign of a good date is when your voices have softened to the point that your chairs are pushed closer together in an effort to hear each other better. This shows that you are relaxed and comfortable. Think of how lovers would speak to each other. Do they speak loud enough for the room to hear? Or are they more hushed? When things are going well, it will be as if the two of you are sharing a secret.

Keep these things in mind on your next date. You will start seeing the signs early in the date. In fact, from the first contact, you should be able to tell from their body language and eye contact how your date is feeling. Of course, keep in mind that the only other sure sign of whether your date is into to you is if they tell you so themselves.

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